Individuation & Authentic Self

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"The paradox of individuation is that we best serve intimate relationship by becoming sufficiently developed in ourselves that we do not need to feed off others." ~James Hollis

written: 04/19/2026 time: 2:13am state: reflective


Who am i if not my given name, job title, or what i'm expected to be. What happens when everything is stripped away, leaving nothing other than the baseline "me"?

I'd like to think i'm something like a tide pool, shifting with the tides and never the same twice.

If my name is something given to me, then what can i give to myself? I want to say it's compassion but i think a better answer is nothing at all.

Nothing is universal, it allows the space for everything. If i'm nothing, then I already have everything I came here with. And that's all I will ever need.


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